Every single person faces the difficulty of making new friends at some point in their life. To build good friendships and develop interpersonal skills, you firstly need to be able to make friends. This applies to our personal as well as our professional lives.
Fret no more, for here are some tips on how to get people to like you.
1. Address others by their first name
By addressing a person by their first name, you show that you remember the person’s name. This makes a good first impression because people find it sweet when someone remembers their name. It makes others like you because they feel recognized and important.
Whenever you don’t remember a person’s name, you can use the excuse “Sorry, I’m not that good with names.” Addressing a person by their name at least three times while conversing helps you in remembering names.
2. Smile to make people like you
A smile is the universal language of kindness and can brighten up anyone’s day. Smiling makes you more approachable, making you look friendly. It’s an easy way to make friends because you will be seen as a happy person who brings smiles to the peoples faces.
Who knows whether your smile will be the reason a person’s bad day turns into a good one. On the other hand, you will end up making friends too.
3. Listen mindfully to make friends
There is a massive difference between listening and hearing. When you listen to another person, you are mindfully present in the moment, paying attention to what they are saying. But when it comes to hearing, there is no mindfulness involved.
Everyone likes a good listener because a person like that is rare to come across. Listening is a good quality a person looks for in a friend. Therefore you can easily make friends if you listen mindfully. To show someone that you are listening mindfully, you can use body language and eye contact.
4. Ask people favors to get them to like you
Yes, this sounds rather weird, but it is definitely effective in making friends. Asking for favors to get people to like you is also known as the Benjamin Franklin effect. After the other person does this favor and you thank them, they end up liking you. Even someone who disliked you
before will start liking you afterward. This is because when a person performs a favor, he or she justifies the favor performed by beginning to like you and getting rid of the negative feelings.
5. Have a positive attitude
Positivity attracts people, and that is a fact. No one enjoys being around and spending time with a negative person. A positive attitude attracts positive people towards you. It is very useful in making friends and building up your interpersonal skills.
Make that person feel important.
Two essential techniques to remember:
- Do not criticize, complain or condemn –
- Give appreciation honestly and sincerely.
As criticism is futile as it places a person on the defensive, and then it usually makes them try to justify themselves. It injures their pride and arouses resentment. Anyone can criticize, complain and condemn, but it takes character and self-control to understand and forgive.
People are emotional and motivated by pride and vanity. Therefore, to have success at friendship is to get the other person’s perspective and see things from that person’s angle and your own.
How to be a leader without being offense or arouse resentment:
- Give praise and honest appreciation.
- Point out mistakes indirectly.
- Talk about your mistakes before criticizing a person.
- Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
- Let the other person save face.
- Praise every improvement.
- Use encouragement by making the fault seem easy to correct.
- Make the other person pleased about doing things you suggest.
The secret of successful friendships lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and able to see things from their angle as well as your own.