Most of you have been rejected at some point in your life. It might be by our family, a friend, or even a romantic partner. Nevertheless, it doesn’t matter who rejects you because it still hurts terribly no matter who does it.
Instances of rejection can be pretty hard to forget.
Rejection makes you feel like you are unworthy of a person’s love. It diminishes your self-worth by making you feel like you’re nothing. You should realize that rejection is simply redirection. When you don’t get what you want, or things don’t go the way you want them to, you are sent off in another direction that you wouldn’t have headed if you had fulfilled your desire.
Rejection can turn out to be a blessing in disguise. Think of all the times that something terrible turned out to be good just because of the redirection. You need to realize that rejection can actually be for the best.
Without rejection, you wouldn’t be where you are today. You wouldn’t be the strong person you are today. Don’t let rejection break you, instead allow it to transform you into a better version of yourself.
Sometimes good things might turn out to be bad, and occasionally bad things turn out to be good. No matter what it is, you need to accept it all because it is a part of your life journey.
It is how you learn to let go of control and resistance to what is. Let all of it come to you. You need to go through rejection to be redirected towards your life-goal. Rejection is not the end; it is merely the beginning of a new chapter of your life.
The most significant damage that rejection causes are usually self-inflicted. Rejection has a lot to do with our ego.
Emotional pain is one of the ways rejections impacts your well-being. Rejections can damage your mood and your self-esteem, they evoke swells of anger and aggression, and it destabilizes your need to “belong.”
Have zero tolerance for self-criticism
As tempting as it might be for you to list all your faults in the aftermath of rejection and punish yourself with your thoughts for what you did or didn’t do wrong.
Rather review what transpired and consider how you would change it in the future; there is no reason for you to be punitive and self-critical while doing it. You are not a loser; life does not come with a book of instructions!
Revive your self-worth
When your self-esteem gets knocked down, it is essential to remind yourself of what you have to offer and not focus on shortcomings, and the best way to do this is to affirm aspects of yourself you know are valuable.