Ever been stuck in a dead-end relationship? Did you find it extremely difficult to move on from it? Well, most of us have been unfortunate enough to deal with toxic relationships or still struggle to get out of that hellhole.
You didn’t settle for this kind of relationship because you choose to be emotionally abused. It is also not because you think that no one else would treat you better. You keep up with all that abuse because you feel deeply connected to that one particular person. It’s as though they’ve cast a spell on you, and you can’t do anything about it.
Some people stay in such damaging relationships because they think that they deserve to be treated that way. The abuser has gotten into their head and made them believe it.
The toxic person has convinced them that they are not worthy of being genuinely loved and appreciated. Weak victims become very dependent on the abusers, and escaping from this sort of a toxic relationship seems less and less possible as time passes by.
It is hard to turn your back on someone who you thought was your true love. It isn’t easy to move on from the person you thought would be there in your life forever. Your dreams of growing old together will be shattered into pieces. The deep emotional connection you once shared has faded away with time.
When people find themselves staying in toxic relationships for too long, they have gotten attached to their egocentric partners and cannot let go. These sort of people can’t imagine their life without their partner. They are co-dependent to a level where they can’t move on with their lives on their own, and it kills them inside.
Despite all that, they still have hope that their partner will change. These delusional people are too nice to see the evil in their toxic partner’s soul.
Everyone has goodness inside them, right? So when did you last see this so-called goodness side?
It is not worth it to sacrifice your own mental and physical wellbeing for someone who would never do the same for you. Relationships aren’t supposed to be about ownership. They should be about partnership.
Letting go is hard for anyone. No matter what, this is the person you shared your secrets with. They’ve seen you at your best and your worst.
How can you let go? How can you continue living without them? Even though they have hurt you, you still have many wonderful memories together. Are those good memories worth the emotional abuse and pain this person causes you?
Can you remember when last you felt genuinely happy? You have no friends as you gave full attention to your toxic lover. You turned on your family when they didn’t support this relationship. This is not the life you deserve. You deserve so much more than that.
If you had never been in a toxic relationship, you might even wonder why anyone would settle for this utter madness.
Toxic people are powerful enough to get into their victim’s heads and brainwash them to believe and do whatever they please. So whoever settles for this won’t even realize that they are being abused emotionally. Or else they might be afraid or have low self-esteem. Maybe they are too scared to move on because they have invested so much in this relationship.
Although the reasons are innumerable, no one can leave a situation they are not ready to let go of. They need to be courageous enough to stand up for themselves.
If you have any friends who are going through something like this, offer them a helping hand. Don’t make them do anything they aren’t ready to do. All you can do is be there for them because they need you.
Healthy relationships involve respect, trust, honesty, trust, and open communication. There should be no imbalance of power. Partners should be able to make their own decisions without fear of retribution or retaliation. Partners should share decisions and compromise.