It is common for all us humans to make mistakes. After all, none of us are perfect. A mistake can be a small or even a large-scale one. No matter its scale, a mistake is still a mistake. It is human nature to hate being wrong. We all know that it feels awful whenever you make a mistake.
What actually matters is how we respond to our wrongdoings. Some people admit their mistakes and apologize. Others imply that they were wrong but don’t do it explicitly that satisfies the other person. Finally, some don’t even admit they’re wrong, despite all the proof that confirms their guilt.
Generally, it is a manipulator and deceitful individual that will never accept their mistakes and wrongdoings. They’ll never say sorry and take responsibility for their actions.
It’s normal for people to respond in the first two ways we spoke of, but those who don’t take accountability for their mistakes are not so normal. The psychological factor behind this is their ego, which is their sense of self. People with fragile egos can’t admit their mistakes because it is too hard for their egos to tolerate.
Due to their weak psychological constitution, accepting that they were wrong can shatter them psychologically. This is when their defense mechanisms act up and protect their weak ego by manipulating facts in their minds so that they are no longer the culprits. These sorts of people come up with statements and repeat statements to avoid accepting the reality that they are, in fact, wrong.
They will regularly try to shift the blame onto someone else, or try to convince you that someone else is responsible, and act like they’re incapable of making mistakes or treating others unjustly.
They even attack people who try to argue with them. People who behave in this way are considered psychologically fragile. Even though they seem confident in their appearance, don’t let them fool you. They are only trying to protect their fragile egos. It might be painful to admit that you’re wrong, yet it is what a courageous person would do; it is the right thing to do.
So, the best you can do when faced with a manipulative or deceitful person is simply ignoring them. Better still, just walk away, as you’re never going to get them to observe the situation the way you see it. There is no way you’re going to get them to take accountability for their actions because nothing you say or anyone else can say to a manipulative and deceitful individual has meaning for them.
An example of a manipulator in any relationship:
Unreasonable blaming and targeting someone’s soft spot. Holding others responsible for their happiness, unhappiness, success, or failures. They want to have control and power over others.
A deceitful person is untrustworthy, fraudulent, and two-faced.
Watch for these signs. They are similar to a narcissist:
- Denial and lying.
- Playing on insecurities.
- Changing the subject.
- Moving the goalposts.
How To Outsmart A Master Manipulator:
- Avoid contact with a manipulator.
- Say no and stick to your gun about being manipulated.
- Ignore the manipulator.
- Set your personal boundaries.
- Assume responsibility for what you do.