This Is How You Will Know If You’re Actually On The Wrong Path In Life

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Sometimes, it isn’t always clear that you are on the wrong path in life until you are too far down the road to do a quick turn around. I’m sure most people have had an experience like this at least once before.

You spent years engaging in self-damaging behaviors only to wake up one day and finally see what you were doing to ourselves. You dug yourselves into deep debt mindlessly, only to pay the consequences later.

You spent years in a relationship that had an expiration date, but you were to busy to notice that you had invested so much of your life into something that was only ever temporary.

If you have an experience like this, it’s easy to spend the rest of your life worrying that it may happen again, that you might wake up one day to find that one mistake after the next might lead you to a place you didn’t want to be.

You imagine that hypervigilance will take care of this — that if you think it through enough, and second-guess yourself often, maybe you’ll be able to avoid the heartbreak.

Except you won’t.

The honest truth is that when you are on the wrong path in life, you know the entire time — when you finally have no choice but to come to terms with it, you have the epiphany.

If you are on the wrong path, in your heart you already know.

You knew what you were doing when you were engaging in self-destructive behaviors. There was no point in time at which you fooled yourself into thinking what you were doing was healthy or okay.

You knew what you were doing when you were getting into debt. You just had enough mental ammunition to keep justifying it and convincing yourself that it was the right thing to do. You kept coming up with excuses and reasons.

You knew that your relationship was going to end because you knew that it wasn’t that good all along. A good relationship doesn’t endWhy would it? 

We never leave people we genuinely love, care, and value. Relationships that end are relationships that needed to because if you’re honest with yourselves, the signs were there all along.

The point is that you don’t ever lose your moral compass, you talk yourself out of it at times to serve yourself best.

Your innate understanding of right and wrong never really goes away, it gets clouded by fear, attachment, and the idea that what’s in front of you is the best you may ever have.

Your acknowledgment that self-destructive behaviors are bad for you is clouded by the fact that they bring you comfort, which you convince yourself is somehow justified.

Your understanding that you were getting into more debt than you could handle. Instead of getting real with yourself about the fact that you can’t afford your lifestyle.

You ignored the realization that you were in the wrong relationship because you were terrified of what the future might hold, desperate to know that maybe this certain someone could be beside you while you figured it all out.

If you want to spend your life worrying that you’re making mistakes, don’t bother. Deep down, you already know.

You already know that the job you’re in isn’t for you permanently.

You already know that you need to clean up your game and get your act together.

You already know what the issues in your relationship are, and you already know whether or not you’re willing to work through them.

You already know what you do and don’t need to do.

You know it even if you want to pretend you do not know it, and the longer you do that, the more lost you’re going to be.

Your “biggest mistakes” in life never occurred because you were blind to their consequences; they occurred because you deluded yourself into thinking it was the right thing to do when you knew it wasn’t.

Getting honest with yourself is the best form of self-protection there is.

Give that to yourself, and go forward with faith, with knowing that you can trust yourself because you are no longer going to lie to yourself — even if the truth is inconvenient and not what you want.

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