Do you blame yourself for every mistake? Do you see yourself as someone who can’t do anything, right? If you have toxic people in your life, this is what they lead you to believe.
Specific individuals play by this rule. They blame others for their mistakes, just because they don’t want to own up to it and take responsibility. There are a few types of toxic individuals who are pros at doing so.
- The eternal “victim.”
These kinds of people never let go of the hurt they suffered in the past. They blame others for being unable to move forward in life. These victims use their past as an excuse for their future behavior. Naturally, blame comes into their minds.
2. The arrogant.
These people are full of themselves. Blame shifting is an everyday activity for these individuals. They are so focused on maintaining their higher status that they can’t even take responsibility for their own actions.
3. Those with low self-esteem.
Surprisingly, these types of people fall under blame shifters, right? But they do so to improve their self-image. They are hopeful that it will help them to feel better about themselves. There are other ways to improve self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-image.
When you’re in someone’s company, who is always complaining about one thing, other, or even about someone, or maybe that the world is out to nail them, you could probably feel exhausted and drained. That could be damaging to you.
5. Pathological liars.
Pathological liars lie about everything they can possibly lie about. These people go to extreme lengths to ensure that the blame is shifted onto the innocent party. They’re also very creative in coming up with lies.
They are attention seekers that live-off the blame game. With their superior mentality, they consider that they are never wrong. According to narcissists, nothing that happens is their fault. Their determination to prove others wrong is unbelievable.
7. Control Freaks.
Control freaks are obsessed with control. For them, admitting that they made a mistake would be like losing control of the situation. Therefore they end up playing the blame game.
This so-called blame game can come to a halt by admitting that you are wrong and seeing things from different perspectives. Taking responsibility for your actions and try not to control everything will help to end blame-shifting.
Sometimes all it takes to understand their perspective is to try to see things through their eyes.
When you are not trying to control every situation, save or fix, you will then be able to take the blame when you are at fault.
For every action, there is a reaction, so take some responsibility for your actions.
I believe everything that happens; you should learn from and move on. However, should you fail to learn from that lesson, you will keep falling into the same situation until you have learned from it.
Stop blame-shifting, admit you may have helped create that problem. Let go of your attachment to that problem and review that situation.