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Learning To Let Go Of The Need To Be Perfect And Be Authentic

There could be a few reasons for you to feel the need to be perfect. 

Growing up, you felt the need to get your parents’ attention as you thought you were never good enough. The things you did, didn’t get you the recognition you wanted, and when you did do something right, they never acknowledged it. It could be all about acknowledgment, attention, and confusing perfection for love.

Growing up, you got sucked into thinking you have to be perfect to avoid pain, rejection, shame, and judgment.

Growing up, you felt the need to be perfect, as mainstream culture teaches and encourages perfection. The perfect child got rewarded with gold stars and medals. 

Today’s culture has taught us ego, where we need to feel worthy and accepted, to have a sense of belonging.

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Perfectionism is not identical to striving to be your best. Perfection is a false sense of protection that stops you from living an authentic life.

As soon as you understand that there are some areas in your life in which you will never be perfect, the faster you can be at peace within yourself.

The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. When you let go of the need to be perfect, you will understand other people better and understand why they behave as they do.

As hard as you try, it is extremely difficult to turn off that voice in your head, ‘never good enough’ or’ what will people thinking.’ Yet, at some point in your life, you will come to realize that you are doing the best you can at that given time. You can only deliver your best. You don’t have to be the best!

You don’t always have to be perfect, act perfect, or even have to look perfect, as though you have it all together and have all the answers. When people see you as perfect in every aspect, people will judge you wrong and always expect more from you. 

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It is a constant battle to achieve perfection and very tiring, as there is no such thing as perfect, so don’t waste your time and energy trying to be something to everyone.

There will be patterns and themes in your life, which will test your strength, to help build you up in different areas where you might be weaker. These tests will help you realize that you won’t be able to master all of them so you can learn to accept yourself just the way you are.

Think about it, do you really admire perfection? Personally, I believe that most of us relate to authenticity and tend to get drawn to down to earth people and who are honest.

It can frequently feel like someone on social media has it all, with the posts of their perfect relationship, perfect family, and job accomplishments. If anyone were indeed that perfect, they would have nowhere to grow, and nothing to strive towards.

Finding happiness is not as elusive as many would have you believe. Happiness comes down to practicing and promoting an attitude of acceptance, gratitude, and releasing the need to be perfect.

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Perfectionism lives and breathes in your fears of making mistakes.

Perfectionism stays alive when you look for other people’s approval and opinions to give you a sense of value.

The truth is a perfect human doesn’t exist. So be kinder towards yourself. It is okay to make mistakes and grow from them. 

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