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I’m Sorry If My Overthinking Makes Me Hard To Love

When you’re an overthinker, even a text message with one or two words can lead you to overthink it. A person smiling at you from across a crowded room will also end with you overthinking what that look meant.

Overthinking is solely an act of “thinking about something way too much or for far too long.” It is energy-draining. In fact, studies have shown that overthinking raises your stress levels, decreases your creativity, clouds your judgment. It also strips you of your power to make decisions.

You wish you could read other people’s thoughts because you spend most of your time trying to figure out what they are thinking. When you’re an overthinker, you feel as if it is difficult for people to love you. It’s not as if you’re trying to cause drama everywhere you go, but you’re only trying to protect your heart. 

You’re someone who doesn’t want to get blindsided when your lover cheats, and you don’t overlook red flags. As an overthinker, you don’t want to get caught off-guard. You prefer to see the betrayal coming, and you want to know what is waiting for you ahead.

Too much emphasis is given to detail because you are worried about the what-ifs. You assume that someone is mad at you when you see a slight difference in a person’s tone, forgetting that this difference might be because that person had a stressful day. 

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Overthinking leads you to think that the particular person is hiding something from you or doesn’t want anything to do with you.

People see you as someone sensitive because you tend to make a big deal out of minor things. When someone makes a bad joke, you overthink the meaning. Even the slightest problem might make you wonder if someone can’t stand you.

You wait for things to go wrong, waiting on the edge of your seat, observing people around you, and preparing for what might happen in the future. 

As an overthinker, you will make a list of reasons as to why your relationship will fail even when things are flowing smoothly. You think that you can get dumped or ghosted, or even cheated on.

When things go well, you tend to get suspicious. You end up predicting that something bad is about to happen to balance your emotions.

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Overthinkers have arguments inside their heads and will imagine the things that another person might say. You tend to get mad at people although they haven’t even done anything wrong.

This makes you seem paranoid. You feel sorry for always overreacting, and you also feel sorry because overthinking makes it hard for people to love you. But this is all because you follow your head instead of your heart.

It is because you have gotten hurt before, and you’re scared you will get hurt again. You’re afraid that people are going to leave you. You are afraid that someone will break you into a million pieces like the others before them.

Did you know that overthinking is also often associated with mental health issues like anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress, also borderline personality disorder. To break the habit, it is advisable to take a step back and take note of what triggers your overthinking.

Notice what is stuck in your head and try change your thought patterns.

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