Most of us have had the experience of ending up in a toxic relationship at some point.
To be able to spot toxic relationships’ destructive behavior is the first step to minimizing their influence. You can not change what a toxic does, but you can certainly change what you do.
Here are some things you need to realize when you keep ending up with people like this:
1. You can’t be the only one keeping a relationship alive.
If you like a person, then there’s no issue asking him out or texting him first. But if you’re the only one making an effort and he doesn’t reciprocate, now that is a huge red flag right there.
For a relationship to work, it requires the effort of both the people. You have to take a step back so the other person can step up. If they can’t do this, then it’s high time that you moved on.
2. Some people just don’t get you.
There might be things about you that some people don’t like. For example, it might be the fact that you’re ambitious or ramble about the things you love.
Whatever the reason, you need to walk away when they truly don’t understand you or don’t like you.
3. You know when you’re unhappy.
Should you have a gut feeling that the person you’re with isn’t Mr.or Ms. Right, then you should trust your gut.
There’s no use in holding on to a person if you’re unhappy.
4. You shouldn’t have to overthink everything.
You shouldn’t have to overthink every little thing in your relationship because the right person won’t make you worry 24/7, all 365 days of the year.
You should not have to worry about what they are thinking or feeling because it will be obvious.
5. The first date really makes or breaks.
A first date helps you realize whether you actually like the person or not. If you’re not sure about a person even after the first date, then you shouldn’t go on a second one.
You should stick to someone who shows their authentic self on a first date. Don’t keep on seeing someone who puts on a mask over their personality.
6. Texting is actually important.
If they don’t respond to your messages within a reasonable time frame, it indicates that they aren’t interested in you.
Never hearing from that person is also a message itself. This is a clear indication that the person doesn’t want to see you or hear from you.
7. Things will always get worse, not better.
When you’re with a toxic person, things will only get worse. You can either stick around and wait for things to get worse or you can leave and feel better.
Take a step back and leave as soon as you see a sign of trouble.
Signs of a toxic person:
- You’re left emotionally exhausted after an encounter.
- They try to intimidate you.
- They try to control you by guilt-tripping you.
- They get jealous quickly.
- They constantly see themselves as victims.
- They are overly defensive.
Toxic behavior is anything that poisons a relationship, and that could limit another person’s growth.