According to therapists, the people you surround yourself with are usually reflections of the way you feel about yourself. Our relationships reflect our state of being.
When you’re surrounded by inconsistent and unreliable people, that itself reflects how you feel about yourselves, you invite critical and judgmental comments from these people close to you because you are self-critical and harshly judge yourself.
Should you feel happy about your romantic relationships or friendships currently, it is always a good idea to reflect on it once in a while to strengthen it. We have listed a few questions that could help below.
Have you ever asked yourself why you settle for bad and unhealthy relationships?
It is mainly because you are insecure and self-conscious. You think that you deserve to be stuck in a bad relationship. When you have very low self-esteem, you tend to defend your partner’s bad behavior because you don’t believe that you should be with a better partner. You also put up with unhealthy relationships because of the fear of being alone.
Being too caring can lead to tolerating an unpleasant partner. You neglect yourself to look after others.
To check whether your relationship/friendship is off to a great start, you can ask yourself these three questions.
- Do you feel lighter after being with this person?
- Do you feel encouraged?
- Do you feel valued?
Did you answer “Yes” to these questions? Then it means that your relationship/friendship is off to a great start.
When things are hard, your friends or partner might be going through a difficult period, so you have to understand why they are unable to be there for you. Do give them a pass if this is the case. If all they do is drain and disappoint you, then it is high time to let them go. Move on and find better people.
Healthy friendships and relationships will make you feel happy and inspired. You will know that there is someone who will always have your back no matter what.
Suppose a relationship or friendship makes you feel neglected, under-appreciated, and disappointed. In that case, you need to ask yourself why you are tolerating toxic people who make you feel this way. Take a step forward and ask yourself the three difficult questions.
Should you answer “No” to these questions, then you should say goodbye to these unhealthy friendships and relationships. Move away from the negativity and find better friends and partners who bring positivity into your life.
It is always good to reflect on relationships once in a while to strengthen it.
Here are a few relationship/friendship questions that can change your love life:
- What was the very first impression of your partner/friend?
- What did you like or love about your partner/friend?
- Do you still like what you liked about them and why?
- How often do you laugh together?
- Do you trust each other?
- Do you respect each other’s beliefs?
- Do you enjoy to spend time with your partner/friend?
Here are a few romantic relationship questions that could change your love life:
- Do you still feel the same way you felt for your partner at the beginning of the relationship?
- Do you positively affect each other’s life?
- Do you get each other’s feelings without saying a word?
- Do you show love and affection for each other?
- Do you argue over past issues very often?
- Do you make sacrifices for your relationship?
- Do you smile when you recount something from your daily life?
- Do you recall the most romantic moment you had with your partner?
- Do you still say “I love you” to your partner?
Should most of your answers be “No,” then you should consider moving away from that relationship. Otherwise, they are questions you should reflect upon.
Maintaining a long-term and healthy relationship is never easy. Still, by answering the above questions, you may find new insights about your relationship and know what to do about your love life.