Understanding and managing emotions increase your chances at success while enabling you to influence other people.
When it comes down to success and happiness in life, Emotional intelligence (EQ) matters just as much as IQ. EQ is the capability to manage, understand, and use your emotions in positive ways to communicate effectively, empathize, overcome challenges, defuse conflict, and relieve stress.
Here are 13 signs of emotionally intelligent humans.
1. You think about feelings.
Thinking about feelings is considered as self and social awareness. It is the ability to recognize your own emotions, as well as the emotions of others.
2. You aim to control your thoughts.
When a person controls his/her reaction to an emotion, it shows that they are emotionally intelligent. You don’t let your emotions enslave you.
3. You pause.
It is also known as thinking twice before speaking or acting-out. This act helps you to avoid making permanent decisions based on temporary emotions.
4. You show authenticity.
Being true to yourself, you directly express your thoughts and feelings. You say what you mean and mean what you say.
5. You benefit from criticism.
You take criticism positively and see it as an opportunity to learn.
6. You praise others.
By praising others, it means that you focus on the good within people. Everyone loves to be appreciated and admired because it satisfies them.
7. You demonstrate empathy.
Demonstrating empathy helps to gain a better understanding of people’s thoughts and feelings. It also helps to connect on a deeper level.
8. You keep to your commitments.
Always stick to your word and keep commitments. Too many people these days tend to go back on their word. By sticking to your word, you will develop a strong reputation for reliability and trustworthiness.
9. You apologize.
Admitting that you did something wrong and apologizing for your mistake takes a lot of courage. It makes a person humble while showing others that you value your relationship more than satisfying your ego.
10. You give helpful feedback.
An emotionally intelligent person will always give constructive criticism. That is because they don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings.
11. You forgive and forget.
You don’t hold on to things, letting them fester inside you. A person who let’s go realizes that it is peaceful to do so.
12. You help others.
Helping others will have a good impact on their emotions. Remember that a good deed can travel a long way and cause a chain of reactions.
13. You protect yourself from emotional sabotage.
Emotionally intelligent people don’t manipulate other people’s emotions for their gains. You can even protect yourself from people of this sort if you’re emotionally intelligent.
It would seem a narrow way to measure people’s capabilities on intelligence alone.
Eighty percent of a person’s success is down to EQ and 20% percent to IQ. While IQ obtains a score for your intellectual ability, EQ provides a masterplan for achievement in life by helping to recognize and direct those disturbing emotions intelligently, according to Dr. Goleman.
IQ and emotional intelligence are not opposing capabilities but rather separate ones. People mix intellect and emotional understanding. There is a slight correlation, though small enough to make it clear these are mostly independent entities. Emotional intelligence has more of the qualities that make us more human.
The key skills for developing your EQ and enhancing your ability to manage emotions and connect with others are: